“The hardest period in life is one’s twenties. It’s a shame because you’re your most gorgeous and you’re physically in peak condition. But it’s actually when you’re most insecure and full of self-doubt.”
say im yours, say you’re mine am i wasting my time? are we inside the lines of a crooked box? were we wrong to begin? did we lose more than win? what we searched for inside of a crooked box?
and all the world keeps going by, the season starts to change but im stuck here, not knowing why the stars have rearranged.
all the walls we made were fake and now we’re feeling two hearts breaking down
so im lost to it all, stuck behind these four walls start to climb, then i fall behind this crooked box we were fools to play this game, thinking it wouldnt be the same cause nobody changes inside the crooked box.
Some people meet, fall in love and get married right away. Others can spend hours in the sock aisle at the department store, weighing the pros and cons of buying a pair of wool argyles instead of cotton striped.
Seeing the world as black and white, in which choices seem clear, or shades of gray can affect people’s path in life, from jobs and relationships to which political candidate they vote for, researchers say. People who often have conflicting feelings about situations—the shades-of-gray thinkers—have more of what psychologists call ambivalence, while those who tend toward unequivocal views have less ambivalence.
High ambivalence may be useful in some situations, and low ambivalence in others, researchers say. And although people don’t fall neatly into one camp or the other, in general, individuals who tend toward ambivalence do so fairly consistently across different areas of their lives.
For decades psychologists largely ignored ambivalence because they didn’t think it was meaningful. The way researchers studied attitudes—by asking participants where they fell on a scale ranging from positive to negative—also made it difficult to tease apart who held conflicting opinions from those who were neutral, according to Mark Zanna, a University of Waterloo professor who studies ambivalence. (Similarly, psychologists long believed it wasn’t necessary to examine men and women separately when studying the way people think.)
Now, researchers have been investigating how ambivalence, or lack of it, affects people’s lives, and how they might be able to make better decisions. Overall, thinking in shades of gray is a sign of maturity, enabling people to see the world as it really is. It’s a “coming to grips with the complexity of the world,” says Jeff Larsen, a psychology professor who studies ambivalence at Texas Tech University in Lubbock.
In a recent study, college students were asked to write an essay coming down on one side or another of a contentious issue, regarding a new labor law affecting young adults, while other groups of students were allowed to write about both sides of the issue. The students forced to choose a side reported feeling more uncomfortable, even physically sweating more, says Frenk van Harreveld , a social psychologist at the University of Amsterdam who studies how people deal with ambivalence.
If there isn’t an easy answer, ambivalent people, more than black-and-white thinkers, are likely to procrastinate and avoid making a choice, for instance about whether to take a new job, says Dr. Harreveld. But if after careful consideration an individual still can’t decide, one’s gut reaction may be the way to go. Dr. van Harreveld says in these situations he flips a coin, and if his immediate reaction when the coin lands on heads is negative, then he knows what he should do.
Researchers can’t say for sure why some people tend towards greater ambivalence. Certain personality traits play a role—people with a strong need to reach a conclusion in a given situation tend to black-and-white thinking, while ambivalent people tend to be more comfortable with uncertainty. Individuals who are raised in environments where their parents are ambivalent or unstable may grow to experience anxiety and ambivalence in future relationships, according to some developmental psychologists…
That’s TWELVE tons! Even a single hair can support a surprising amount – 3 ounces (which is like a travel-sized bottle of shampoo). If a human were to attempt to climb a rope of human hair like in the fairy tale “Rapunzel,” it is estimated that a 63 lb person could climb a 90-foot tower!
start growing your hair!
Thanks to an anti-obesity law passed last year, Japanese salarymen across the nation are pulling up their shirts to have their guts measured… and if they’re overweight, they face consequences. If you’re male and your waist is over 33.5 inches, you’re considered fat. If you’re female, the…
- I went to St. Kilda beach today.
- Wanted to swim but it was too cold, so I watched kite boarding instead. I am going to sign up for kite boarding lesson, when it gets less cold.
- The instructor said that I would probably be blown away <literally> by the wind because I am tiny and light. Well, what do you have to say now, Matt?
Once upon a time, 4 years ago, in Advanced Recording Techniques, the conversation below happened:
Dave: I love Koalas, I was in Australia and I could actually lift them up and snuggle with them!
Yenny: OH! like me, I think you could lift me! I think you’ll manage my weight.
Dave: Well.. not to be rude, but you’re bit big, aren’t you?
Yenny: That’s a bit harsh, isn’t it?
Matt: Dude, Dave, you’ll need a forklift!
So, yea, no, you don’t need a forklift!! <as per kite boarding instructor’s testimony>
I still remember it word by word, cos it’s kinda
I wrote posts about change a couple days ago. Action truly are harder than just saying it. I should focus on what is in front of me rather than fearing about things. Should act on my fears. It’s not as bad as how I picture it in my head. When I actually experienced it, it was kind of magical, and fun!
To all the people in my life:
I love you. I wish something was different. I adore you. I look forward to get to know you. I envy you. I want to draw you. I want to have coffee with you. I miss you.
See it. Read it. Learn it. Listen to it. Ask why. Learn more. Be curious.
|Jon:||You know what they call people when they shoot someone without intention, in other words accidentally?|
|Jon:||Man slaughter. Such a cool term huh.. and I think they have other term for people who shoot someone with intention.||*Both Jon & Adam were thinking very hard*|
|Yenny:||That's called murder, dude.|